Hiring a doula for your birth? Here's how to choose the right one for you.

Finally, the word is out about how doulas make a difference during birth! People who receive continuous support are less likely to need pain medication (if that's the goal), have negative feelings about childbirth, and have fewer c-sections. Added bonus: shorter labors!⏰ Partners also report more satisfying birth experiences with the help of a doula, because doulas are also experts at encouraging teamwork in the birthing room (read more about teamwork here)!

One quick Google search for doulas in my area brings up page after page of doulas. So how do you choose? This will be short and sweet, but it needs to be said.

I'll admit that when I first started out, I took every client that came my way, but along the way I realized that I was doing a disservice to my clients for doing so. Why? Because every client is not right for me, and I'm not right for every client, and that's ok! Everyone deserves a doula that they feel is made for them.

There needs to be a "click" that happens when you have that 30 minute consultation with your doula. A couple of days ago, I had a consultation that was supposed to be 30 minutes, but turned into an hour because we hit it off so well. We laughed, we told stories, we got felt like we had been friends for years already! I mean, the experience that you're going to share with this person is very private and intimate. A personal connection is a must.

What about a certified vs. non-certified doula? As a certified doula myself, I can honestly admit that there are many non-certified doulas out there that have been supporting clients for years and are amazing! You choose who you feel comfortable with. Just know that some hospitals actually require doulas to be certified in order to practice there, so do your homework!

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Me and my wife

Here's a really important thing to consider: bias. Doulas are human, just like everyone else, but does that doula you're considering have the same viewpoint as you on issues that matter to you? For example, I know for a fact that I wouldn't take a client that doesn't believe that Black Lives Matter✊ or that LGBTQ+🌈 rights are human rights. These things are important to me, and therefore I couldn't overlook them. Decide what matters to you. Read their bios, ask questions and listen to their answers. You need to feel that your doula cares about you!

And oh here's a big one: agenda: oohhh what a doozy this one is! How do you envision your birth? Do you picture yourself in a birthing center having an unmedicated birth? Or, like many of my clients, have you already decided that "Nope! No pain for me! Epidural stat!"? Unfortunately, some doulas may have their own idea of a perfect birth, and it might not be the one you're planning. Your doula should be there to support you: To instill strength and reduce fear, not talk you out of getting an epidural because they feel that's the way it should be.

It's your birth, not mine! When people ask me what my birth philosophy is, this is exactly what I tell them. This memory and experience will be with you for a lifetime, so choose your doula wisely. Happy doula hunting!

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